I'm on to Plan B (it's actually probably Plan G or H). For my wedding that is. Our venue was confirmed but there will be renovations going on at the time of our wedding... so it's now out. On to plan B to find another venue. And I'm staying cool. I feel pretty non-bridezilla actually. I never thought of myself as a bridezilla type anyway. The wedding is about the love and commitment we are sharing. Everyone will have fun no matter where we are.
When I got the news initially, though, my chest constricted, my thoughts started going a mile a minute, and I started with my defenses. What if I can't find another venue? What if I have to change the date and some people already have their air tickets booked? What if I can't afford the next venue? What if... what if....?? Ahhh.... the what if dilemma! Worrying about something that isn't yet and probably won't be. I remember when I read Wayne Dyer's book "Your Erroneous Zones" and felt freed from worry (sort of) when he described all this nonsense about worrying about things that have not happened. That was a long time ago... so thank-you, Wayne!
What was interesting about all this is my 'tell'. Yes, I spelled that correctly. I attended a leadership webinar yesterday, and it was a great review of things. But I learned something new! I learned that I do not know my 'tell'. Your tell is your outward sign of you getting defensive or angry. Often others see it before you do, and they will know you're angry before you know yourself. So knowing your tell is pretty critical for having strong, positive relationships... and definitely for leading and managing. I'm now aware that my chest constricts and my neck tightens. Surely, I have other tells and I'm now on the lookout. Planning a wedding is a great way to find them!
Namaste
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